Cemetery Grass Upsets Those Honoring Veterans

By Melissa Newton, CBS 11 News

GRAND PRAIRIE (CBSDFW.COM) – The nation and North Texas are pausing this Memorial Day to honor the sacrifices of our war veterans, but some families feel like their military loved ones have been forgotten.

At Southland Memorial Park in Grand Prairie, the headstones of some fallen heroes were hard to find beneath the overgrown grass and weeds.

“This is injustice, this is not right!” said Jan Hyde, whose mother and father, a WWII veteran, are buried in the cemetery. “My dad’s was completely covered up. It just broke my heart.”

Hyde came to the cemetery Memorial Day morning to pay respect, not only to her father but to the other veterans buried there.  “I feel like that’s my obligation on Memorial Day,” she said, “to honor them by putting a flag out on their headstones.”

Respect is the last thing she feels like her parents and all the other men and women buried at Southland are receiving.  “This is not honor, this is awful,” she said, “I don’t even have a word to describe it, it’s awful.”

Arvivian Roberts searched the cemetery for an hour to find her father and sister’s headstones.  “It’s horrible. I think for the owners of this land to neglect it, it’s like neglect and abuse of our loved ones,” she said. “I’ve actually went and wiped off dead grass to read headstones, I should not have to do that to find my loved ones, it’s horrible.”

After several complaints, the owner of the cemetery sent crews out to mow the area, but some families say it shouldn’t take a complaint to get the care the dead deserve.

“If you look around you see trash, you see dead flowers, weeds,” she explained, “Today is Memorial Day. There should be a respect, a certain solitude about taking care of people’s loved ones.”

“They deserve better than this.” Hyde said. “Shame on us to allow this, and not to honor these men and women who gave their lives, and we can’t do any better?”

CBS 11 did try to contact the owner of the cemetery, Bill Strong. He did not return our calls.

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  • MurMom

    Where are these families the other 364 days a year? Why pawn off the “respect” of your loved ones resting place to the cemetery owner? I’m certain the grass and weeds didn’t just appear.

    • krystyna

      Murmom…this is why people buy cemetery lots in perpetual care cemeteries; so that THEY don’t have to do the upkeep on their loved one’s grave. If this is a perpetual care cemetery, then it’s the cemetery owner who is supposed to keep up the cemetery & NOT the family.

    • 2sister

      Maybe they do go there more than once a year or maybe they don’t live near the cemetery. They might have moved away. Also, some kinds of weeding and lawn work probably take special equipment. Furthermore, the relatives might not have the ability to take care of the weeds. There loved ones might be buried there, but the cemetery is private property. The cemetery has workers that are supposed to take care of the cemetery.

      • 2sister

        Mr. Black I think you misread my previous posts. I wasn’t making excuses for why the grounds keepers hadn’t been keeping up with their cleaning. I was saying that we shouldn’t judge the families that have loved one’s buried there. I was trying to say that there might only be so much that the families can do about the weeds. We know nothing about the families in the story, and so it is not fair to judge them. They might not live near the cemetery. Also, since the cemetery is private property, the grounds keepers are responsible for mowing. The grounds keepers have or should have the proper equipment to take care of the property. The families probably don’t, and might not even be allowed to take care of the cemetery if they did. .

      • Mr Black

        Wow! I bet if the grounds keepers put as much effort in cleaning up the place as you did in coming up with excuses, there wouldn’t have been a reason to write this story.

    • Good Grief

      “Pawn off the respect?” News Flash: Maintenance of the grave site is one of the many basic services paid for when one has paid for the internment in a particular cemetery.

      • eric baxter

        Absolutely correct. You think that some of the brain dead morons like ‘Melvin’ or ‘Ed’ or ‘TaoSunTzu’ might eventually wise up and get a clue? Nope, not a snowball’s chance in Hell of that, my friend.

    • ChurchSox

      My father and grandparents are in that cemetery, and I’m in Seattle.

      Any other thoughts you’d care to share?

  • KLA

    Directed at MurMom: of course they didn’t just disappear, my husband and Mother are there and you would not believe the problems I’ve had with this cemetery. It takes weeks sometimes to get anything done…. I generally give a few days after rain before I check things out, but go back again and again over weeks and it’s total neglect. The height of those weeds in the picture above didn’t JUST appear.

    • Kathleen

      My mother has a plot there but it will be over MY dead body that we use it! As long as Bill Strong is over the cemetery, things will not change. He is the most inconsiderate, lazy human being (used roughly)!!! While Mom has lived in GP for over 50 years, only since he has been in charge has Southland completely been forgotten. It’s time that someone take a look at what’s going on! Mr. Strong is not doing his job and in this economy maybe it’s time for him to lose his!!!!

    • teaisstronger

      In Boston, there is a small cemetery where three signers of the declaration of independence and one president are buried. Its a dump with weeds growing and trash littering the place. This Federal Government and Congress will not do anything they are suppose to do. Democrats hate American’s military so why would you expect anything different.

      Our Government and this Congress need a good strong dose of TEA.

      • eric baxter

        They got one in November of last year and they’re going to get another one in November 2012.

      • JB

        That is indeed horrible and a big injustice to those dead patriots, BUT, what is stopping you from taking your lawn mower over there and doing it yourself ? I mean no disrespect to you, but sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands when you see something that is wrong.

      • Eric Baxter

        That is true, and this frequently is done; however that does nothing to change the fact that the ineluctable Mr. Strong needs to get his ass in gear and provide the services he has been paid for.

      • Beez

        JB: in many cases, there are laws that keep you from mowing on someone else’s property…not to mention, this is not a realistic option for many elderly or infirm people. Why does everyone feel the need to blame the people who are upset at the cemetery management?

      • eric baxter

        Smaller government has nothing to do with it, you ASS. Perpetual care is a contractual arrangement between tow private parties. The frigging government’s only business in that arrangement is to enforce the existing contract via the court system. The government doesn’t do the grass cutting you stupid turd. I bet all your iPod/MP3 player has on it is a recording of someone saying “breathe in, breathe out” over and over again so your stupid ass doesn’t suffocate… What a waste of oxygen you are !!!

      • frankie

        they need a swift kick in the arse is what they need

      • CharlotteNC

        Tea Party = smaller government. Not federal government mandated cemetary grass cutting programs you moron. I’m starting to think tea party is simply a euphinism for full on moron. You can’t have it both ways jackhole. I want smaller government and that means smaller government. That doesn’t mean reducing government services so we can spend it all cutting some facking grass.

    • James Dean

      On Memorial Day we go out to the cemetary and cut the weeds ourselves. This is to honor our hero who has passed on to a better place. Never gave much thought to just spending the day whinning. I guess we all celebrate in our won way. Pity America has passed from a nation of heroes to a nation of whinners.

      • Tina

        James Dean, when I was growing up, that is what we did on Memorial Day weekend every year – we cared for our family’s graves in all the small cemeteries. We loaded hoes, shovels and trimmers in the car and made the rounds, working alongside other families out for the same purpose. It is indeed an honorable task, and one I still feel pride in when I have the opportunity.

        Permanent care funds have since been established for most of these and earn a small interest that assures mowing a few times a year. It’s a help for people like me who now live far away from those graves we helped tend as children. But the funds were created by donations from families and in most cases the maintenance is still managed by area families on behalf of all.

      • 2sister

        Are you saying that you cut the weeds in front of the grave? What about all of the weeds that are growing in other places in the cemetery? This cemetery sounds like it might need a little more than just simple weed pulling in front of the graves. What if the people who are complaining are not in good health or live far away. We need to be sensitive in our comments.

  • Laura Singleton

    It’s been like this since 1973. My mother complained until she died in 1997 but nothing was done by the owner. I go out 3 or 4 times a year to clear my parents graves and those surrounding it. Today I saw them mowing the back section which is the newest. The worker was just picking up flowers and throwing them into a stack. Some might have blown off their original site but not as many as I saw him collecting. I picked up trash along the fence on both sides and filled a large bag with dead branches trimmed off the bushes in the fence. My brother said the section between the road and the fence was still unmowed in the afternoon. I have family buried in cemetaries around the country and none look as bad as this.

  • Todd

    So where is the outrage the rest of the year? It is telling that these people,like most,do not visit but once a year.

    • teaisstronger

      How can any American feel anything other than hatred toward our Government and Congress for neglect like this. Remember the honorable treatment they gave to Obama Ben Laden. Obama ordered over 1500 men to their deaths in Afghanistan and for what?

      • James Dean

        It shouldn’t be about what the government does for us. Memorial day is about honoring the ones who gave life and freedom for us. Maybe next year each of us could honor them with a small unselfish act for another. Forget Washington, those losers will always come up short.

    • Ornley Gumfudgen

      I really agree with ya. Th complaint that they had ta search for hours ta find thair father’s an sister’s grave is about as ridiculous as they come. This person feels outraged but apparently honestly didn’t already know where the father and sister’s graves were? Yeah right, those two people were such important nstrumental factors in this person’s life they don’t even know where they are buried? Amazing.

      Not takin th cemetery’s side but thair has been a lot of bad weather an th financial problems affectin everyone else has also been affectin th cemetaries.

      Time was in our nation whair family members ensured th grave sites of thair loved ones were always in good repair an not just fer major holidays whair people occasionally put down thair hamburgers an beer an go over ta th cemetery ta pay thair respects on a regular basis.

      • eric baxter

        I sure wish you would go ‘for ta pay yer respects’ to a damned English textbook on a regular basis. You just sound like a complete window-licker.

      • Beez

        It appears many people have been TRYING to improve conditions for a while, to no avail. I know exactly (on paper) where some family members are buried – but when a cemetery is allowed to grow over, the visual cues in finding a particular spot can be obscured. It sounds like you haven’t visited enough cemeteries to be aware of this.

        I don’t care about the cemetery’s financial problems. If they can’t meet their obligations, they should seek to be officially discharged from them, instead of getting shills to come onto web sites and ask for handouts (as has happened in certain other posts on this thread). I can’t believe YOU are more willing to accommodate THEIR financial problems, and not accommodate the problems of family members who might be too old, too sick or too distant to perform the caretaking duties that someone else was already paid to perform.

    • ChurchSox

      So how many times a year do you have to visit in order to prompt the owners into fulfilling their contractual obligation to keep up the cemetery?

      • Beez

        @born is so focused on making his minor cultural point, he just can’t admit that the cemetery has done anything wrong, and he must consistently paint anyone who complains about it as one-time whiners. He knocks over his strawman about people only being outraged one day of the year, since he admits that people have complained about it always being neglectful – which means they notice more than one day a year. He should be more upset that the media only COVERS it one day a year, since clearly people complain about it more often than that. (But that would require him to shed his intellectual dishonesty.)

      • Beez

        (And incidentally, I plan to be cremated – and that is partly because I see the cemetery industry as doomed to become fraudulent, because eventually all of them will run out of place to store bodies and keep new revenue streams flowing, and then shenanigans WILL occur. That doesn’t mean I think they should be allowed to get away with said shenanigans.)

      • http://borntobepolitical.wordpress.com borntobepolitical

        According to other posts on this thread, this cemetery has always been neglectful. I just find it disingenuous that on one day of the year, people become outraged. It is not about the deceased, it is about their outrage.

        If they are that outraged, maybe they should pay closer attention during the rest of the year. I have recounted the fact that in most countries, people pay respect for the departed by cleaning the graves and leaving food and flowers.

        One poster recounted that in their youth, it was “decoration day”.

        We have become so dependent on other people that we are now whining about somebody else taking care of a grave.

        Sorry for all of you

    • James W. Adams

      The point is, this cemetery contains Vets. One would think the owner would make certain that on this one special day the land is well groomed.

    • eric baxter

      Who gives a s#!t? It doesn’t matter if the NEVER visit the grave. Bill frigging Strong still is obligated to uphold his ned of the deal. Visitation…. are you for real?

    • Eric Baxter

      Todd, you are odd and certainly a ridiculous clod. What in hell does periodic outrage have to do with a contractual obligation. Also, if the only time outrage is displayed is on Memorial Day, doesn’t it stand to reason that Mr. Strong would save himself a lot of bad press if he would just get off his fat ass and have the damned grass cut just that once a year? Are you really that dense or are you a few sandwiches shy a picnic??

  • Janwood 1

    Get in touch with your local congressman, mayor or other public official. Write a letter to the newspaper. Get so much attention focused on the owners that they are forced to do their job better. There must be laws about keeping the cemetery cleaned up, just like homes and businesses are supposed to keep their yards cleaned up.

    • teaisstronger

      I once read that a private group of volunteers tried to plant sod and maintain a burial site for veterans but were forbidden because it was not authorized on federal land.

  • The Undertaker

    You can make a complaint to the TEXAS FUNERAL SERVICE COMMISSION
    PO Box 12548, Austin Texas 78711 or call 512-463-2070.

    Im sure it wont be the first, or the last… MOST Snakes like high grass and weeds…. So sad that people pay money for it to be kept a certain way… I wonder if his Pawn Shops grass or his house grass is that bad…?

  • Mr Black

    I see a lawsuit coming.

    • 2sister

      Mr. Black I think you misread my previous posts. I wasn’t making excuses for why the grounds keepers hadn’t been keeping up with their cleaning. I was saying that we shouldn’t judge the families that have loved one’s buried there. I was trying to say that there might only be so much that the families can do about the weeds. We know nothing about the families in the story, and so it is not fair to judge them. They might not live near the cemetery. Also, since the cemetery is private property, the grounds keepers are responsible for mowing. The grounds keepers have or should have the proper equipment to take care of the property. The families probably don’t, and might not even be allowed to take care of the cemetery if they did. .

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  • melvin

    i feel if your not happy with the way it’s being taken care of get out there and do it yourself .. it doesn’t take any special tools to pull a few weeds away from a headstone. use your hands and quit all the crying .

    • ChurchSox

      Does the contract for sale of the burial plot contain a clause that says the site will be maintained? Bet it does. If that’s the case, how does it get to be the customer’s responsibility to maintain Southland Funeral Home’s property.

      • Warren

        Stop expecting other people to do what needs to be done. If people are soooooo outraged, then buy a tank of gas, get your lawnmower, and cut it. If you still expect others to do what you complain about, you are the problem. “so and so should be responsible for this and that”..bla bla bla. If we waited for people top become responsible then prepare to sit in weeds. You be the Harvester and claim the good wheat by performing the actions others complain about.

      • CantFeedThenDontBreed

        EXACTLY. If Southland is selling burial plots, and the contract includes “perpetual care” ( most do ) then Southland IS IN BREACH OF THE CONTRACT. AND, to all the loudmouths who want families to haul their tools and lawnmowers out to the cemetery ( perhaps HUNDREDS of miles ) to clean up their family plot, I present the following which is EXACTLY what you’re asking those families to do:
        1) Go buy an aftermarket car warranty for your vehicle
        2) The next time there’s a COVERED mechanical breakdown, call them
        3) When they REFUSE to fix your car or otherwise pay for the repair, then
        GOT IT ?

      • Ornley Gumfudgen

        Even if it does, unless someone occasionally stops buy ta ensure th contract is doin what it’s supposed ta do, an apparently no one was doin it on a regular basis cus if they had it would have surfaced before Memorial Day, who will hold Southland Funeral Home’s feet ta th legal fire.

        This apparently has been goin on fer quite some time, why all th anger just because th story was told on Memorial Day?

        If these people were really all that important ta th folks complainin about it they would have done somethang about it a long time ago instead of whinin about it now.

        Now tha story I’d really like ta hear is how many families that had buried thair love ones killed in military action actually stopped by th cemetery yesterday or over th weekend ta pay thair respects ta that loved one. I am bettin that less than half actually bothered ta take th time ta show up fer more than five minutes.

        Fer me, I would have loved ta have that opportunity. Unfortunately my dad’s grave is unknown ta everyone cept him of course. So I content myself ta visit th graves of others in his honor. An yes, I have been known ta pull a weed or th grass back away frum th headstone of people I never met cus I know they died so I could be free ta tend ta thair grave when thair own families won’t see ta it.

        It don’t make me better than th next guy but helps me ta feel better about myself an I believe it’s th right thang ta do.

        So ya guys fight with th cemetery over money an thair obligations, while th graves still go untended, an I’ll still find th time ta occasionally go over an clean up a grave site.

      • Devin

        The general remedy for a material breach of contract is simple damages, not requiring the cemetery to actually do anything beyond paying damages. Actually getting damages requires hiring a lawyer who is unlikely to pursue a suit with so little money on the table.

      • Beez

        People should stop defending people who do not do what they are obligated to do, especially at the expense of people who are rightfully upset about it.

    • Susan

      Melvin, Your a jacka$$ and must be the owner of the cemetary, a friend or relative or this business owner that fails on a daily basis to be a moral person and uphold his contractual obligations to the family he sells plots to. The owner seems to either be a money grubbing jerk or has no business owning the property and needs to sell to someone with more sense.

    • eric baxter

      Hey, Idiot- the jerk that owns the cemetary is INDEED contractually obligated to take care of the grounds. It is NOT the families’ jobs to be mowing, weed-eating and preforming the other duties of caretaker. If you feel that strongly about your position then YOU need to get your ass out there and do it for all of them. Doofus !

    • Olivia

      People get old. Sometimes the surviving relatives aren’t physically able to do those kinds of things, or even go regularly to the cemetery. I am now 72, I still go to my parents graves a few times a year just to make sure everything is ok and to put on flowers for special occasions. I used to go every week when I was younger. Fortunately the cemetery where they are buried does an excellent job of maintenance. I am just saying not to judge families for not going out to do the job of the land owners. Some dead have no one left living to do that job.

  • Lillian Rodgers

    I have a nephew that is buried that he has been there for over 3 years and I can not get anyone to place a marker to show where he is at. I have called the number on the sign and they tell me its not there place, I have to call the funeral home, I call them and they will give me a marker but I have no ideal where he is buried at. It is totally ridiculous I have never seen a cemetery run like this one.

    • Pamela

      Lillian my name is Pamela and I am having the same problem with trying to locate my father. This has been going on for almost 2 years for me and it like I am getting nowhere. I called the funeral home and they tell me to talk to a Mr. or Rev. Wetherall and he will tell me the two people my father is buried between but I still can’t find him because there is nothing marking these plots. I don’t know what to do but I have his number if you need it.

      • Dave

        I don’t mean to be rude, but in most cemeteries, the family is responsible for providing the marker. That is usually arranged through either the funeral home or cemetery. At most what is put down with out additional funds is a temporary marker made of low quality metal, similar to a garden stake.
        The cemetery should however be able to tell you where every one is buried.

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  • durham

    I wonder if the cemetery workers are members of a union? Maybe actual work would have interfered with their break schedule.

  • Bruce

    If you’re so concerned for your decease father, where have you been? You haven’t visited lately have you.

    • snowflake220

      My God how dumb are you bruce? Do you really think it is the responsibility of the loved ones to keep the grounds kept up? It does not matter how often someone visits..it is NOT THEIR responsibility. It is the owners job to keep up their OWN grounds.

      Do you really expect everyone to bring a lawnmower, weedeater, trimmer, etc., everytime they visit? How many loved ones have YOU visited and saw everyone bringing their own lawnmower?

      This place makes up to ONE MILLION a year and employs 5-6 people. You’re telling me a MILLION a year and they can’t afford to keep their OWN property neat?

      • http://borntobepolitical.wordpress.com borntobepolitical

        “Do you really think it is the responsibility of the loved ones to keep the grounds kept up?”

        With all due respect, in most countries, people tend the graves of their loved ones themselves. Why do you not think that if it is that important that you could visit regularly and pull the weeds your self?

        Russia had their version of memorial day last month and my in-laws spent a day cleaning and tending the grave. They leave flowers and food on the grave. They traveled by bus for 4 hours each way. It was raining and they cleaned the stones, pulled the weeds and prayed for them.

        In the Philippines, they spend the night on the grave’s of loved ones and have a mass said.

        We have grown accustom to everything being done for us. I respectfully recommend that as a culture, we reorder our priorities and start to take care of ourselves.

      • YesSir

        Snowflake 1, bruce and bornto 0. The cemetary is responsible for the maintenance of the grounds.

      • http://borntobepolitical.wordpress.com borntobepolitical

        You are most correct, they are not responsible for the maintainance and upkeep of the grave. That is someone else’s responsibility. I agree that they should just stand there in horror and complain. Let the weeds grow while you holler at them. Forget that it is your loved one that is lying under the weeds. And for God’s sake, don’t take any responsibility yourself!

      • bruce

        Snowflake 220,
        This is a typical lethargic American. I guess the love one was deaf and dumb; Deaf for not visiting occasionally and dumb because they didn’t speak up sooner. If it was uncared for now, it was probably uncared for in the past. That’s why it’s important to make your voice be heard. It’s called being vigilant. Her loved on cries out from the grave to be vigilant. That’s not asking to much for the freedom she indulges herself in.

      • Beez

        I can’t believe all of the communists making comments here. Apparently, nobody believes in binding contracts anymore. All of the people blaming the loved ones in this situation will probably enjoy standing in the Soviet-style bread lines in our looming future where people are not accountable to each other, and the government is accountable to no one.

    • Beez

      I’m reading comments from people who HAVE been complaining for YEARS about THIS particular cemetery, to no avail. Any OTHER “intelligent” comments to make?

    • eric baxter

      It’s none of your frocking business when the last time the grave was visited, if ever !!! Visitation stats have nothing to do with perpetual care contracts !!! Why can’t you and your stupid buddies get that through your thick heads????

      • Beez


  • Ed

    Why are there no pictures of the cemetery, from a broader perspective? I’d like to see what the rest of the place looks like.

    @melvin: Agreed.

    • eric baxter

      You are an even bigger idiot the Melvin. What a -hole !

  • Allen T

    Get your governor to mow and weed for a year as punishment.

    • Beez

      It’s not a state matter (yet) – but if it were, I would suggest he draft a workforce of people such as yourself (if he can afford the huge training bill).

  • Dan

    Considering the education level in this country, or lack thereof, perhaps the words “perpetual care” have no meaning.

  • To all the Dolts out there

    Some of you are dolts. I live miles away from my parents and get out 2 a year. Now most if not all have a contract that states that the plot will be kept clean. And yes that is a UNION job.

  • Eric-Gunther :Oberhauser

    I bet the local golf course is very neatly cut, If I were in the area I would make it very unsightly like I did here with a 4 wheeler.

    • SayWhat?

      Go drink some more moonshine with your sister/wife you redneck.

  • snowflake220

    Southland Memorial Park in Grand Prairie, TX is a private company categorized under Cemeteries. Our records show it was established in 1949 and incorporated in Texas. Current estimates show this company has an annual revenue of $500,000 to $1 million and employs a staff of approximately 5 to 9.


    ONE MILLION a year and they can’t afford to mow?

    Those who think loved ones should be taking care of their own loved ones plots…do you REALLY think they should all bring mowers, weedeater, trimmers, etc. to keep up someone else’s PRIVATE property? People PAID for these plots and along with that PAID plot comes maintenance. I doubt the agreement when buying a plot here states “YOU bring your OWN MOWER AND YOU keep up OUR property for US!”

    • par for the course

      I used to handle the books for a cemetery owner in another state, and I’m willing to bet that this group’s revenues are closer to the $500K than the million. He had 2 large cemeteries, and rarely made more than $525K in a year. Some years, personnel costs alone exceeded revenues. He kept them pretty nice, until he went bankrupt. The City took over the cemeteries and blew through the $1.6M this guy had set aside for perpetual care in about a year. The taxpayers fund them now, less about $500K in revenues collected each year. As plots sell out, you are going to see a lot of cemeteries suffer the same fate. It’s a losing business model. I plan to get cremated.

  • http://borntobepolitical.wordpress.com borntobepolitical

    With all due respect, in most countries, people tend the graves of their loved ones themselves.

    Russia had their version of memorial day last month and my in-laws spent a day cleaning and tending the grave. They leave flowers and food on the grave.

    We have grown accustom to everything being done for us. I respectfully recommend that as a culture, we reorder our priorities and start to take care of ourselves.

    • MrNiceGuy

      It is the cemetary’s responsibility to maintain the grounds, not the families’.

      • http://borntobepolitical.wordpress.com borntobepolitical

        So let the weeds grow and complain. When did we lose the respect of the dead that we would not take it upon ourselves to maintain the grave?

        Yes technically, it is not their responsibility but do the dear departed care who is pulling the weeds?

        Everybody needs to get their priorities straight.

    • Beez

      Ah, Russia. No wonder you expect so little from a binding contract.

  • Olga Zurova

    Probably a bunch of Mexicans who have no idea what Memorial Day is, or even care.

    • MR, Houston

      With a name like Olga, who are you callling Mexican , you racist Pig! What a idiot!

      • James Dean

        Mexican is not a racist term. Silly. It is a nationalist term and most are mighty proud to be Mexican. You might re-examine your own thoughts as to why you think the way you do.

  • Ramon Hill

    They are dead. Period. Just like we all wil be one day. Part of “paying respect” is to clean up the area. Most people here seem to be a bunch of cry babies wanting someone else to do what they need to do for theiselves. If you are to old to do it, what about YOUR children, or neices or nephews? Don’t they need to be taught a bit of “respect”? Who is going to care for YOUR grave?

    • Schnurri

      I don’t care who will take care of my grave or even iif I geet buried. I hope to be with God and won’t care.

    • Susan

      I am amazed at all the jacka$$ people on this website posting that upkeep is the responsiblity of families.. Most plots have continuous care that comes along with the fee they pay to be buried. In only the most rural of locations does this not occur, and even then the locals take it upon themselves to do it and take up collections from vistors on Memorial Day.

    • Dutchmann45

      Amen, at least we have ONE person here with common sense,,Thanks.

    • eric baxter

      I’ll tell you who… It will be the SOB that contractually obligated himself to do so. And I will attach a codicil to my will with financial provision to initiate the lawsuit. What the hell is wrong with you, anyway??

  • Jack P

    Can’t afford to buy gas for the mowers.

  • Bill Johnson

    This is symptomatic of where we are as a country. There’s very little accountability anywhere and I see here that some people lack the common sense to recognize that the management of the cemetery is responsible for maintaining the property. Look at what happened at Arlington National Cemetery where hundreds of bodies of our heroes don’t match the head stones. How long did it take for the incompetent, lazy slobs who managed this hallowed ground to be fired? (A long time.) I would not be surprised to learn they’re getting their fat pensions. The excuse given was: “If only they had switched from a card system to a computer system, the problem would not have happened.” This entire country is on the skids. It shouldn’t take a lawsuit to get cemetery management at Southland to perform basic services, but these days — considering the prevalence of amoral, lazy creeps everywhere — it’s not a big surprise.

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