DALLAS (CBSDFW.COM) – Most people think men are more likely to cheat than women. But psychologists say it’s really not about gender, it’s about power, and that powerful women are just as likely to cheat as men.
Bill Albright is a private eye who uses spy techonology to catch cheating spouses. One of the devices he uses is a jacket camera. The other is a pen camera.
Usually it’s a woman asking him to check on her man. But not always. Albright pulls up one of the videos he captured on his jacket cam inside a bar.
“If you look very quickly, there’s going to be a kiss. Right there. That’s the money shot,” Albright said.
Women, according to a study published in Psychological Science, are just as likely to cheat as men. Especially if they’re in positions of power.
“These tend to be people who are high risk takers. They think very highly of themselves,” Stephanie Burchell said.
Burchell is a Dallas therapist. But she says it’s also about personality. Narcissistic personalities of either sex are more likely to cheat or take advantage of subordinates.
“Because it’s about their needs,” Burchell said.
‘Mike’ said his ex-wife fit the profile and cheated on him too. “She had an affair with another woman that also worked within our agency,” he said.
Power, Burchell says, can give way to license and a grandiose sense of entitlement. “That they can get away with these things by exploiting whoever it takes including their spouse to persue their desires,”
Men may think they’re alone in their circumstances. “I don’t know any of my friends who’ve had their wives cheat on them. At least they didn’t tell me,” Mike said.
Burchell can assure them they are not. “I’m often surprised that it’s the woman that’s committed the offense. And the men, in many cases, are just as crushed as you’d expect.”
It is estimated that 30 to 60 percent of married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. Which likely contributes to the fact that nearly half of all marriages end in divorce.