If you want a child to do their chores, it may all depend on how you ask.

A new study, published by the journal Child Development, suggests that if you say, “Please help me,” a child is less likely to respond.

“Please be a helper,” is more likely to garner positive results.

The study divided nearly 100 preschoolers into two groups — one group talked about helping, the other half talked about being helpers.

The children who talked about being helpers were 20 percent more likely to offer help.

NPR interviewed one of the researchers behind the study, who says “being called a helper makes kids feel like they’re embodying a virtue.”